One of the most inspirational talks I have seen in a while. Brene Brown is an exceptional speaker. Whitty, sincere (or do I say authentic?), smart and kind.
Watching her Ted Talk (approx. 20 minutes) is time well spent and will leave you with a lot to think about.
Some jewels from the talk:
Courage: From the Latin word “cuer” which means Heart. Courage therefore means to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. To have the courage to be imperfect and be OK with that.
Compassion: To be kind to yourself first and then to others because we can’t practice compassion with others if be can’t be kind to ourselves.
Connection: comes as a result of being authentic. This means having the ability to let go of who you think you should be in order to be who you are.
Vulnerability: Is at the root of fear, shame and our struggle for worthiness but it is also the birthplace of job, of creativity, of love and belonging.
What we do when we numb ourselves: We cope with not allowing ourselves to be vulnerable by numbing our emotions and feelings. But the issue is that you cannot selectively numb emotion. You can’t say “here’s the bad stuff. Here’s fear, here’s shame, here’s grief and disappointment . I don’t want to feel these so I’m going to have a couple of beers and a banana-nut muffin.”
You can’t numb these hard feelings without numbing the other affects or emotions. So when we numb those we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness. So then we feel miserable and we are looking for purpose and meaning so then we feel vulnerable and we have a couple of beers and a banana-nut muffin and we enter a vicious cycle.